Below post was written as a holiday spiritual boost!

I’m writing this blog from my studio flat in Pimlico as I am watching the world go by from my living room window and going back and forward into my kitchen ensuring that the chestnuts I put earlier on under the grill are roasted to perfection.


If you are just like me and love chestnuts I am sure you are right now using your imagination and you can smell the very aromas that are surrounding me right now.

Last night I was out with Daniel, a very close friend that I have known since my university days in the mid 90’s. Our conversation turned into a coaching session as he shared with me his recent experience of letting go some of the feelings that have held him back in his love life. What was interesting is that despite the healing process he underwent, as he continued to share with me I was able to pick up in his language the subconscious limited beliefs that hold him back that sabotaged the healing process bringing him back to square one. Through our chat I helped him identify the exact words he used and the energetic meaning, the beliefs he currently held and helped him create new positive affirmations to re program his subconscious mind. We also went through  some centring exercises to open his heart to love.images (59)

One of THE best lesson I’ve learned in this walk of spiritual path is to get out of my head, my ego, emotions and into my heart.  Since childhood I cultivated and cherished an intellectual understanding of spiritual teachings and practices without really living them and without taking them into my heart.

Let me tell you something, It’s not easy to be wholly loving. The ego is very tempting. However, I’ve learned that Love really is the healer and that we can have a healing even in our most difficult relationships and circumstances. That healing won’t happen UNLESS we move into our hearts and doing it together – practising the Presence together – is so beneficial. That’s what family, friends, animals, nature can be for if we take advantage of the opportunity.


In our family dynamics, in our friendships, and in our communities are the perfect opportunities for us to practice compassion. Compassion IS Love in the form of understanding.

I used to resist being loving and compassionate. I withheld Love as a form of punishment. I didn’t realize that there’s only One Presence and I was only punishing myself. When I began to wake up and realize the mistake I was making I began to look for opportunities to be compassionate. If there was agitation or frustration or perhaps a “stand-off” with friends or relatives I began to say “I’ll go first. I’ll make the first move to release the judgement  forgive and be compassionate. I’ll go first.”

I began to go first, not so I could show I was better, but so that we could get to the loving sooner. Love IS the healer and I was truly interested in that healing!

During these holiday times if you find yourself withholding loving kindness and patience, if you find yourself wanting to hold onto judgements,  if you find yourself wanting to be right and not caring at all about being happy, I invite you to practice the Presence in this simple way:

If you feel agitation or discord, be grateful. That feeling of upset let’s you know that you’re out of your heart and you’re probably in judgement. Place your hand on your heart, take 3 deep breaths, with each breath, say to yourself “I’m grateful that Love is the healer. I’m willing to choose Love. God help me choose Love. I am Love

Be willing to go first and let Love lead you.

Your heart is the heart of a SUPER HERO. Have you heard the saying ‘ Love moves mountains’? It can leap the tallest judgement with a single breath! You can be Masterful! NOW is the best time to practice. I am preparing for the best years of my live and Love is leading the way, join me in this 7 day plan!

Day 1– Loving-Kindness in Loving-Kindness

Exercise for the day: Find a new way to express your love to a dear one.

  1. Business
  2. Home
  3. Relationship
  4. Personal development

Day 2 –: Discipline in Loving-Kindness

Exercise for the day: Help someone on their terms not on yours. Apply yourself to their specific needs even if it takes effort.

Day 3 — Compassion, Harmony in Loving-Kindness

Exercise for the day: Offer a helping hand to a stranger.

Day 4 — Endurance in Loving-Kindness

Exercise for the day: Reassure a loved one of the constancy of your love

Day 5  — Humility in Loving-Kindness

Exercise for the day: Swallow your pride and reconcile with a loved one with whom you have quarrelled.

Day 6 — Bonding in Loving-Kindness

Exercise for the day: Start building something constructive together with a loved one

Day 7 — Leadership in Loving-Kindness

Exercise for the day: Highlight an aspect of your love that has bolstered your spirit and enriched your life…and celebrate.

Thank you for your willingness! I stand with you in Love!

May you feel universal Love pour through you as a shining example of the love you have in your heart this holiday season! May you know the blessing of Love that you are in each moment and may your family be blessed in all ways.

 Wishing you a Happy and Prosperous New Year 2013!HealOneSelf1