After my PT session with my very good friend and great personal trainer Will Pike I got inspired to write an article about the importance of stillness in our life. With so much technology to guide us when we are feeling lost around streets, cities and country’s what is that device inside of us that guides us when we are feeling lost in life?

Just the way mobile phones needs a GPS chip to be able to tell us where we are, our emotions too have something what is referred to EGS, this is Emotional Guiding System that has the ability to guide us and keep us in track. How many times you have felt something before it happened? Do you use your own intuition? Do you trust your internal wisdom to inform you of your next right action? Did you know that a divine, tricked-out EGS system comes standard with the human being package you were gifted at birth?

Are you one of these people that need countless people to weigh in on every decision you make in your life? Well, think again, you don’t need to stop and ask for directions! The more you keep asking – thinking the answers are outside of you – the more lost you may become.

I am often asked the following questions: How do you discover the answer to your own questions? How do you reveal your truth and make decisions in line with your authentic self?

Follow this simple step:

Sit in stillness and silence for 5 minutes every day for the next 7 days. During this time, ask yourself the questions you have about decisions you need to make. Bring your focus to your breathing, then your heart, ask your heart what it really wants and what your next right action is. When you sit in stillness and silence, you create space for the answers to come to you, leading you down a more direct path to your truth and happiness.

Not only through personal experience, but also through many coaching sessions I have come to conclusion that when you make decisions based on the opinions of others, oftentimes you wind up resenting them. “Well, I did what so and so said and look where THAT got me!” Yes, that happens because they are not you. They cannot know your truth, they do not operate from the same programme that you do, they do not use the same perceptual filters as you do and most certainly they have not been brought up with the same values as you have.

This is different than seeking advice from a mentor or trusted other whom you call upon when you want to brainstorm a decision. A mentor helps guide you and weigh your options. What we are exploring here is the efficacy of calling 5 people to make any decision.


Ultimately, even with the advice from a mentor, friend, or family member, you want to allow yourself to imagine and actually feel the different options in your body. This can reveal which path is right for you. By being still and silent, you allow your mind to delve beneath the chatter of fearful ruminating and projection and into a place of expansion and possibility. In that clearing, your route unfolds with clarity and becomes easy to navigate.

The other important thing to remember is that you are perfectly capable of making informed decisions in your right and perfect time that are in line with your truth. And ultimately, the only one who can do that FOR you IS you.

I wish you a congestion-free week filled with the clarity that comes from stillness and silence.

©Tony J Selimi